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7 Effective Character Building Tips

Author: Francis Edo Olotu

Building the character of your child is the noblest task of a father because it leaves a lasting impression on the child while society benefits from it. A father must have a large repertoire of strategies to enable him achieve this goal. These include:

1. Create Ethical Boundaries for your Child

Let there be sanctions for telling lies to discourage children from this vice which is a gateway to other vices. Use your child’s mistakes and wrong actions as opportunities to teach him what proper action is and use it to form his character.

2. Use Anecdotes to Teach Moral Lessons

Society never lacks anecdotes that pack enough punches to educate young minds. The Enron scandal would provide valuable lessons in corporate fraud. Enron was a multinational corporation which grew from nowhere to be America’s 7th largest company in 15 years. It had 21,000 staff in its payroll in more than 40 countries. However, investigations will later reveal that its success was an elaborate scam woven around lies about their profitability and concealed debts which were not reflected in the company’s audited accounts. The company declared bankruptcy in 2002 while those found guilty were sent to jail. It teaches us that there is nothing hidden that will not be revealed; therefore honesty remains the best policy. There are always lessons in everyday life and in the dailies which a discerning father can use to build his child’s character.

3. Use Family History to Create a Memory Bank

Extended family members suffering on account of their character flaws might be used as ready examples to discourage your child from walking in their footsteps. There may be some family members who because of laziness ended up being poor or doing low paying jobs. My father taught me early in life that laziness is one ailment that the physician has no cure for, because it is a mindset that paralyzes the rest of the body. Use stories of persons your children know or whom they can relate to in conveying moral lessons. With stories and anecdotes, you are creating a memory bank in your child that he will draw upon in building his character.

4. Behavioural Changes

Character training entails weaning your child off unwholesome habits. A child who steals can be told the consequences of stealing especially using everyday examples. Attitudinal changes will be demanded while counseling is sought after if as a parent you feel it is necessary.

5. Compassion

Teach your child compassion and empathy by making him show compassion to less privileged persons. Encourage him to participate in volunteer services for the less privileged.

6. Be Proactive

Consider the uniqueness of your child and make an inventory of his character needs rather than his faults; then you will be in a position to employ rational means in building a good character in him.

7. Use of Wise Sayings and Prudent Maxims

These power-packed sayings have a way of leaving strong and lasting impressions on the memory of young persons. Faithful application of these strategies will go a long way in helping your child transit into a responsible adult with very bright prospects of living a successful life.

These tips would assist you in building a good character in your child.

About the Author:

Dr Francis Edo Olotu is the Medical Director of Christ Hospital, Ondo. He is also a family counselor who regularly counsels married persons and administers pre-marriage counseling to couples about to marry in his home church of St John Bosco Catholic Church Ondo. He is a frequently featured speaker in the Catholic Charismatic Renewal. He is married to Catherine and their marriage is blessed with four children in the age bracket of twelve to twenty two. Dr Olotu is the author of the following books: The Amazing Power in Fatherhood; Releasing the Power in Fatherhood as well as Your Guide to Cancer Prevention.

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Author: Francis Edo Olotu

Many persons think and believe the greatest need of a dad is money to care for his chidren or time to spend with his children. While theses things are important and can’t be overlooked, a dad’s greatest need pertaining to his role in the life of his children is knowledge of how to be an effective father. He must know how important he is in the life of his children as well as what to do with his children to make them successful in life.

Men are at a disadvantage in one sense; they do not take to fathering by intuition; it is most often a learned act. Men, unlike women do not have biological experiences comparable to pregnancy, childbirth;, lactation etc. which would have made learning the craft of fathering compelling. When a man comes from a home where his father was effective in moulding his children in to responsible adults, he is already equipped to some extent with what he needs to be an effective father. Men who were raised by their mothers alone without a father figure in the impressionable years of their lives must learn what effective fathering is all about.

Effective fathering entails catering for the material, physical, social, intellectual, emotional and spiritual needs of a child until he or she arrives at young adulthood. Many fathers with little fathering knowledge take refuge in sending their children to reputable schools that will hopefully knock their children into shape. They forget that a father’s role is irreplaceable and keeping the child away from home at the most impressionable period of the child’s life is a deprivation many children never recover from even as adults.

Dads would meet this meet as they read about fathering, attend fathering classes, discussing with other fathers, join fathering fora and blogs that cater to fathers on the net, as well as seek professional counseling when they have challenges.

We must not relent in our efforts to become effective dads since in the words of George Herbert, “One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters”.

This article was written by Dr Francis Edo Olotu, a medical practitioner, family counselor and the host of the blog Empowering Dads. Visit and leave your comments at

About the Author:

Dr Francis Edo Olotu is a Medical Practitioner, Family and Marriage Counselor, Conference Speaker and Author. He is the Author of Amazing Power in Fatherhood, Releasing the Power in Fatherhood and Your Guide to Cancer Prevention. He is married with four children ages 12 to 22

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The Guy’s Guide To The Delivery Room

Author: Aging Hippy

You know, years ago it was easy.

Your better half was in labour. You’d sit outside in the waiting room with all the other expectant fathers, smoke countless cigarettes {yes, you could smoke in hospitals, then}, talk about the football and wait for the fateful words “Mr. Dirt, it’s a boy”.

At this point you would stand for the applause, take a bow and sling the cigars around.

You’d slip in to see the “little woman”, after she’d been ‘made decent’ by the staff, of course, give her a peck on the cheek and a cheap bunch of flowers, a revolting box of chocolates – Black magic were the weapon of choice in the olden days - and head off to the pub to tell all the blokes how clever you were to have a baby.

Well, my lucky lads, ‘Those days Are Gone’!

In the 21st century you are expected to be, well and truly, “Part of the Action” as far as childbirth goes. And you can forget those stinking cigars, for a start!

Be fair, lad, YOU initiated all this so it’s only reasonable that you should be there at the “Grand Opening”, so to speak.

It’s a tough ask, I know that, but it is something that you will be reminded of for the rest of your days if you decline the generous offer, or command, which ever may be the case.

Prepare yourself well. Childbirth is not the ‘happy event’ we hear about in the movies. The ‘happy event’ is the time directly FOLLOWING childbirth.

Childbirth itself is a long drawn out process, much like you and your wife sharing a tent in the mountains for a month when it rains every day – accompanied by your mother-in-law!

‘orrible, it is!

There are ways that it can be made easier, enjoyable, even.

Firstly you have to consider how much it will mean to your partner. She will be ever grateful and it will bring you closer together than anything else you have ever done.

This is a moment you will share with no-one else except a few dozen selected medical personnel and lots of machines, with flashing lights, that go “PING” at every available opportunity.

Then, of course, there are always the brownie points that you will receive from all your female relatives for being such a ‘caring partner’. No more socks and undies at Christmas. I see Single Malt Scotch on the gift list from Great Aunt Agatha.

As for yourself, well, you will have taken part in a one-off experience that some say has changed their lives forever.

There are so many things you have to learn and you don’t have unlimited time to learn them.

Online you will find videos that will assist you and, hopefully, there are classes in your local area.

Whatever you do, DON’T listen to your mates – listen to someone who knows!

For more valuable information on YOUR preparation for the birth of your child, check out The Guy's Guide To The Delivery Room.

Oh, and by the way, congratulations. Have a cigar!

About the Author:

The author is retired and spends most of his time asleep. Over the years he has had more than his fair share of harrowing experiences. He delights in passing the terrifying details on. For far more detail on preparing for childbirth – for men, please visit The Guy’s Guide To The Delivery Room

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